Is it a necessary evil?
Dad was asking mum where sis was because the puppies were available for her to choose. Mum was asking if the puppies were weaned off the dog-mummy's milk but dad was not very certain. She went on to ask if the puppies had shed the "baby-fur". Dad doesn't know either.
But sis will choose the puppy that we will be buying.
Their is something rather sinister about it. A cruel relationship between the decider and that which will be decided upon. The chosen one will get to live with us and hopefully get the proper care that she needs and the others, well, I don't know what will happen to the others.
It is a necessary thing. To choose the right one. I remember there was a time when I was choosing to buy a soft-toy and having decided which was the one I would purchase, I convinced myself that this particular toy was screaming out to me saying, "Pick me!" And not because it was the most well made.
Is it just me? Another random fact?
But I suppose it is a necessary evil when it comes to living things. It's like choosing a girlfriend, wife, life-partner. You can't just make do now can you? It has to be perfect. How else can you justify the amount of time and effort that will be invested in time to come.
However, there is always a however, perfection does change with time. Like what Sumiko Tan wrote in her Lifestyle column. She did not retract her statement made in the same column many years ago about singlehood. But she did state now that a woman is incomplete with a man. That ought to generate a bazillion comments and rebuttals. But what is important here is what she is trying to say, I think. And that is as time passes, people change. And with that, the very definition of perfection, what is important and more importantly, what is no longer important and dropped changes. Call it a dilution of quality, a fall of standards but to not admit that a person's wants and needs, idealistic and realistic outcomes changes, is to be dishonest with oneself.
But sis will choose the puppy that we will be buying.
Their is something rather sinister about it. A cruel relationship between the decider and that which will be decided upon. The chosen one will get to live with us and hopefully get the proper care that she needs and the others, well, I don't know what will happen to the others.
It is a necessary thing. To choose the right one. I remember there was a time when I was choosing to buy a soft-toy and having decided which was the one I would purchase, I convinced myself that this particular toy was screaming out to me saying, "Pick me!" And not because it was the most well made.
Is it just me? Another random fact?
But I suppose it is a necessary evil when it comes to living things. It's like choosing a girlfriend, wife, life-partner. You can't just make do now can you? It has to be perfect. How else can you justify the amount of time and effort that will be invested in time to come.
However, there is always a however, perfection does change with time. Like what Sumiko Tan wrote in her Lifestyle column. She did not retract her statement made in the same column many years ago about singlehood. But she did state now that a woman is incomplete with a man. That ought to generate a bazillion comments and rebuttals. But what is important here is what she is trying to say, I think. And that is as time passes, people change. And with that, the very definition of perfection, what is important and more importantly, what is no longer important and dropped changes. Call it a dilution of quality, a fall of standards but to not admit that a person's wants and needs, idealistic and realistic outcomes changes, is to be dishonest with oneself.
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Well said!
"Call it a dilution of quality, a fall of standards but to not admit that a person's wants and needs, idealistic and realistic outcomes changes, is to be dishonest with oneself."
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